Neil Patrick Harris Và David Burtka

The "How I Met Your Mother" star may never have met his husband if they hadn’t ended up at the same Thành Phố New York City street corner at the same time.

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The "How I Met Your Mother" star may never have met his husbvà if they hadn’t ended up at the same New York City street corner at the same time.

Neil Patrichồng Harris & husbvà David Burtka are quite literally two peas in a pod. “We have sầu the same shoe size, body toàn thân kích thước, height và weight,” Harris told Out magazine in 2012, adding that they mô tả a wardrobe. “We’re both Gemini. We both lượt thích the idea of family — not a nuclear family, but a social family.”

But just as much as they're similar, they’re also quite opposite in how they operate. Harris explained he’s “very introspective — thinker, rather than the doer. I tkết thúc to weigh options before making decisions, & David is the polar opposite of that.”

It’s both their commonalities và differences that have sầu made Harris (best known for his stints on TV shows Doogie Howser, M.D. and How I Met Your Mother và as a four-time Tonys host) và Burtka (a cookbook author, chef and actor) such a perfect match — và a stable Hollywood couple, who went on their first date on April Fool’s Day of 2004.

Commemorating occasion in 2021, they swapped Instagram posts, with Harris calling Burtka “my top priority, my constant inspiration, my baby daddy, and my best friover,” and Burtka returning the love with, “You have given me the life I have sầu dreamed of. I am constantly amazed at your parenting skills, how hard you work to provide for our family, how much we still laugh, that we haven’t lost ‘it’ in the thắm thiết department và most importantly that we are still madly in love sầu.”

But the couple, who are now parents to fraternal twins, daughter Harper Grace và son Gideon Scott, would have never met if it weren’t for a chance encounter on the streets of Thủ đô New York City.

Burtka was in a relationship when they met

Despite having been billed a teen heartthrob, gracing the covers of teen magazines in the '90s, Harris didn’t always feel lucky in love sầu. “I rethành viên being in my mid-twenties, lying in bed thinking, I’ve sầu never taken a shower with anyone before; I’ve sầu never had any kind of long-term relationship. I remember thinking that the rest of my life would be solo,” he admitted lớn Out. “I wasn’t weepy when I thought that — it was just a realization that I had gone this long being self-sufficient.” In fact, he was more than just sufficient. Harris had been earning ardent praise as the Master of Ceremony in Sam Mendes’ version of Cabaret on Broadway in 2003.

During that time, he ran inkhổng lồ his frikết thúc Kate on the street, who happened lớn be with Burtka (who was coincidentally in another Mendes production at the time, Gypsy). Harris assumed he was Kate’s boyfriend, remembering Burtka as a “brooding, James Dean–type guy in a leather jacket who gave me the head nod and then turned away,” Harris said. After all, Burtka was already in a long-distance relationship.


Neil Patriông xã Harris & David Burtka at the premiere of "Harold và Kumar Escape From Guantanamo Bay" at the Cinerama Dome on April 17, 2008, in Los Angeles, California

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They first hung out at an ‘American Idol’ party

Harris was respectful but also didn’t want to give sầu up hope. “I didn’t want khổng lồ be that guy who was creating some sort of romantic interference,” he told Out. “So I was always around when he was around, hoping the stars would align.”

Their first real hangout was when Kate invited hlặng lớn an American Idol viewing tiệc ngọt. “I just stammered around hlặng,” Harris remembers. “I couldn’t take my eyes off hlặng.”

They eventually started hanging out as friends. “I thought he was adorable...with these amazing xanh eyes that are just hypnotizing khổng lồ me,” Burtka said. Eventually he broke up with his boyfriover và he & Harris went on their first date the following week lớn the movies khổng lồ see Angelina Jolie’s Taking Lives.

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One essential topic that came up on that first date: kids. “If he hadn’t wanted kids, I don’t think we’d be together,” Burtka added. “I always thought that family was the most important thing in life, & no matter what I vì, whether being a chef or an actor or a dancer, being a dad is what I vì best.”

They moved in together just months after they started dating

From that first date, the two started seeing more of one another. “We started hanging out every single night, and after three months, it was just non-stop,” Burtka remembered, with Harris adding, “Once we started talking, we never stopped.”

They soon moved in together, simply because it seemed convenient. “We thought if we were both going lớn be paying $5,000 a month to lớn use someone else’s sheets and towels, we might as well do it together,” Harris told the publication of the moving into lớn a “roomy và reasonably priced” place in Harlem that a woman had lived in for more than four decades.

Heading baông chồng lớn L.A. lớn pack up, their cross-country drive khổng lồ their new home page in New York City symbolized the merging of their lives. They started by loading up the moving truông xã with the foundation of each of their lives they had in storage, before stopping in Harris’ hometown of Albuquerque khổng lồ piông chồng up some things and then lớn Michigan, where Burtka’s family is, lớn get his family’s piano. “We went slowly across America, filling up this truông xã, và by the time we got to lớn Thủ đô New York, we had a new life full of furniture,” Harris said.

They’re honest about their ups and downs

With that new life also came a new level of trust between each other — which included complete openness, even when it wasn’t the easy way to lớn go. “I initially fell for David harder than he fell for me,” Harris admitted. “I remember saying, ‘I think I love sầu you,’ & he was lượt thích, ‘That’s really nice,’ which is not necessarily what you want khổng lồ hear. But I appreciated his honesty in not jumping the gun and saying something because he felt obliged lớn.”

Burtka says that the first three years were lượt thích a “honeymoon period” & then they eventually settled inkhổng lồ a vibe. “It becomes more comfortable, but it becomes a necessity — something you can’t give up, like an addict,” he said.

And lượt thích any couple, they have sầu their disagreements. “Our fights last five minutes, then we’re over it,” Burtka said. “ we’re both Gemini — we have a good twin and a bad twin, and the four of us get along really well!”


Neil Patrick Harris (L) và David Burtka (R) with their twins, Gideon Scott Burtka-Harris and Harper Grace Burtka-Harris, in 2017

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Burtka proposed on the street corner they met followed by a proposal by Harris on Valentine's Day

One day a few years inlớn their relationship, the two were on their way khổng lồ an event outside of New York City in a limo, when Burtka insisted on stopping. It turned out they were at the street corner where they had their first chance encounter. “He got on one knee and proposed, and I was so freaked out by it that I said, ‘Yes,’ but I didn’t know what it meant,” Harris said. “Then I got the ring & loved it, and a year later, on Valentine’s Day, I proposed lớn him in Santa Monica.”

At the time, gay marriage hadn’t been legalized in Thành Phố New York, but they didn’t let that hold baông chồng their plans lớn start a family. “We both agreed that if we wanted to have kids, we didn’t want khổng lồ bởi it super late in the game,” Harris said. “We wanted our parents khổng lồ enjoy the process và lớn be young và vibrant enough khổng lồ throw a ball with them, or to chase them around without using a walker.” On October 12, 2010, that dream came true, as they welcomed Gideon và Harper via surrogate.

The pair got married in Italy in September 2014

As the family continued to lớn grow, with both parents sharing updates on their social truyền thông media, June 2011 became a historic time. “It PASSED! Marriage eunique in NY!! Yes!! Progress!! Thank you everyone who worked so hard on this!! A historic night!” Harris tweeted. The next day, he got more personal, tweeting: “David và I did propose to each other, but over five years ago! We've been wearing engagement rings for ages, waiting for an available date.”

While raising their kids definitely kept their hands full, it wasn’t until three years later, on September 6, năm trước, that the couple of 10 years finally got married in a small ceremony in Italy with just 45 guests, including Kelly Ripage authority và Elton John, who also performed at the reception.

The ceremony was officiated by How I Met Your Mother director and producer Pam Fryman as the men both wore custom Tom Ford tuxedos, People reported. Fireworks and magic were part of the festivities that were held at a castle, Ripage authority shared on her show. She also revealed that both of the Butka-Harris kids had essential roles, with Gideon — who wore a top hat & tux — stepping inlớn the position of “orange boy” who handed out oranges as he walked down the aisle.

Harris says the secret to lớn their relationship is 'perseverance'

Nowadays, the couple continues lớn raise their family together, not shy lớn have sầu their kids appear in holiday-themed Instagram posts or even alongside them in commercials. After all, they’re all about giving Harper and Gideon as many experiences as they can.

“I feel like our life is just a bunch of blank pages in a big book và we're trying to fill them up as best we can, so I hope it will be a good read,” Harris told Parents. And they continue to lớn work through the challenges together. “The secret to a relationship is just perseverance, you know?” he told Entertainment Tonight. “It's not always pretty…but he's pretty, so it makes it easy.”

But more than anything, it’s about continuing khổng lồ intertwine their lives in every way. “We talk on the phone at least eight times a day & text at least 25 times a day,” Burtka told Out. “We are, in a way, very codependent. He’s my lifeline, in an amazing way. Without hlặng, I can’t breathe.”